I cannot CUM

Izumi · #1 22-01-2011, 08:23 PM

Hi Bros, I got a problem that I need to seek advice from bros.

I a 24 years old local chinese and I have no sex experience until recently with my GF. we had a good time having hot sweet love, she came but I connot cum

we did it a few more times for the past few weeks the same situation happened

I had no problem cumming when masturbating while watching porn.

some frends told me I'm not used to wearing condom but I don't want to have unprotected sex for selfish reasons.

I had a feeling that this is starting to affect our relationship and my confident.

Plese advise me on this problem. Thank you.

joeylow78 · #2 23-01-2011, 11:11 AM

you should wear a condom and PCC. Practice makes perfect. Sometimes it's the brand of the condom. Try switching to another brand.

Lionrod32 · #3 23-01-2011, 12:15 PM

Bro, it might be the stress of trying to performing in bed ... Try to relax and dun put so much pressure on yourself ... Think of think abt how wonderful your gf is and how you want to cum in her (cap on of course) ... Naturally you will overcome your problem ... Cheers

Faidenk · #4 23-01-2011, 12:36 PM

TS,
There are several threads on this topic in the Sexual Health forum. I suggest you go there instead. Good day.

Izumi · #5 23-01-2011, 01:04 PM

Thanks for giving advice bros.
I'm just confused. some times we do it for almost 2 hours until we both tired already but still no cum. I don't feel much when inside her, can feel tight but can't fell sexual pleasure.

I usually cum around 5-10 mins when pcc.
what brand of condom is good ? I using durex fetherlite.
should i seek help from doctors or take any pills?

Thank you.

naturegreen · #6 23-01-2011, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Izumi

what brand of condom is good ? I using durex fetherlite.

You may want to try Okamoto Platinum 0.03. It's thinner.

BernardFrosty · #7 23-01-2011, 01:51 PM

Maybe ur foreskin is too long and too thick. Genitals not exposed enuf during sex to get sufficient stimulation.

If circumcision is not an option, try pulling ur fore skin further back before putting on the condom.

chinchiahoe · #8 23-01-2011, 02:25 PM

Bro, your situation is rather uncommon, at least to me. I've another suggestion but not sure if you are receptive to it. U can actually try having sex or making love with another gal & u see if the result is the same(but try not to get addicted & hooked). The problem currently may not necessary lies with u. It may be your gf is not able provide u with the necessary pleasure(individual preferences) thus causing u not able to cum.

VanGogh · #9 23-01-2011, 03:46 PM

Bro, I was in this situation when I was younger in my early 20s, I sometimes can't even get an erection when my then GF is giving me BJ....

To me, deep down inside, I knew I had a psychological barrier, my psychological barrier was that I am not good in sex and my didi is small.... well, that's a psychological barrier i build in myself since teenage time as my best friend got a real big didi n mine was considered small when compared to his.... so it build up from there... ... (until when I go NS and realised my didi was not actually small but just not as big as that friend)

what I can suggest is to refrain from PCC for a few days before meeting her and make yourself real horny, once you get to cum over a couple of occassion, it'll be ok.

That's what I've been thru, hope it is of help to u

tigerprawn · #10 23-01-2011, 04:36 PM

TS, let me share my personal experience and hopes this helps. If you can cum during pcc, then there is nothing biologically wrong with you. The issue is probably incorrect wearing of condom which hinders orgasm or psychological.

I agree with one of the bros who posted earlier, if you are uncircumcised and new to sex, try pulling and retracting your foreskin back all the way first and make sure your cock is 100% hard and erect before putting on the condom. The condom should fit snugly like a second skin and not loose.

If it is a psychological barrier, then while I applaud your insistence on using a condom, I would suggest you try fucking your gf without condom first. Either your gf go on the pill (just for a month) or you practise the withdrawal method (which is more risky of course). After you "train" your cock to cum when fucking and not just during pcc, then you start to use condom for future sex.

Good luck bro!

chinchiahoe · #11 23-01-2011, 04:48 PM

I just like to add on abit of what Bro Tigerprawn had mentioned. Besides the contraceptive pill & withdrawal methods, there's also 2 more options I know of. Which is the rythematic method(quite troublesome) & taking the after-morning pill method(simplier but not recommended on a very frequent basis). Hope all our info are able to help u in a way or another. Happy trying.

Director · #12 23-01-2011, 05:11 PM

One advise TS, stop PCC. It is written in some sexual articles that too much PCC can and will affect sexual performance. Please note I mention too much PCC is bad. PCC is still a healthy outlet but not too much. It will affect real sex.

carol888 · #13 23-01-2011, 05:39 PM

really envy you..i cum less than a minutes even now...my ex-pinay gf was complaining...

{SPUD} · #14 23-01-2011, 07:36 PM

If TS does not mind, I can share my thoughts here.

I had this problem previously and not even an ejeculation after 18rounds of session within 5 days. Without or without condom, it doesn't help. I guess such thing happen to many other people as well or may never happen before.

Rest assure that it is not really a problem. It could be some factors mentioned here, for I don't know if it is the same factor as mine. It could be the factors of what some brothers said here but nothing to be alarm. I guess you will know it when you are more clear in your mind and not to see it as really a problem since you can ejeculate when you masturbate.

Izumi · #15 23-01-2011, 07:43 PM

Hi Bro carol888, the grass is always greener on the other side.I envy you too.

I'm a average looking guy , I don't think it's easy for me to find a ONS. I'm afraind to go find prostitutes because of the risk of STD and HIV.

I'm not concerned about my size as I've seen others in the gym.

We insisted on using condom becaue I don't want to affect her career.I enjoy kissing and touching her body. But I just don't feel much when I'm inside of her.

Maybe I'm not horny enough around her cause I've watched too many porn. Maybe I'm subconsciously comparing her body with those ang mo porn stars.

I have stoped masturbating for 2 weeks before we tried again and I did not cum. I woke up the next day and found that I had a wet dream, which mean I can cum without physical contact.
I didn't tell her cause not sure how she will react to it.

Thank you for all the suggestions. I will definately try another brand of condom.