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When we exchange contacts...
A forum is formed to gather people of similar interest or entitythrough the convenience of the Internet. Even though there is this lack of interpersonal interection, bonds and friendship can be forged, through mutual respect and trust in this virtual world. However, we see people misplacing these trust and respect in one way or another.
Many friends here that are lucky enough to have some friends with benefits (I wouldn't use the word 'fuck buddies', as I strongly believe there is a form of friendship involved.) Some may not be as lucky, but some work their way through, put in effort to obtain such 'special friends'. And when I say 'mutual respect', I mean to respect the effort some friends here put in befriend some friends with benefits.
However, more than often, I see and meet people who try different underhand methods in an attempt to get these benefits. I see people try to use 'sympathy' to cheat soft hearted ladies here in the forum. I see how people con their way through, betrayed the trust of sone friends here in order to get some contacts. These acts, I would say, is not unscrupulous, instead, simply put, STUPID. (pardon me if I am being too harsh.)
Friend with benefits, we see the word 'friend' in this multi-word expression. In other words, we KNOW these people. So what if you manage to con your contacts? We, the people who passed you the contact, is able to communicate with these friends. We CAN track you down just by asking our friends who contacted them or who have they met. We CAN expose you to our friends, as simple as that. We have nothing to lose, while you risk your reputation, and ending up with nothing, no sex, no fun.
Imagine this, you have no luck in getting friends with benefits, put in some effort, say, initiate a meetup where you offer to treat the girls drinks( I believe most SBF friends here will not try to take advantage of you.). Make friends with everyone. In the case when the girls aren't interested in you, at least you have made some friends, and most importantly, friends that share common interest with you. Isn't it a win-win situation?
Because of some black sheeps in the herd, trust in this forum barely exist. I myself feel sad to see a unique community like SBF being misused. I still remember how amazed I was to discover a forum like SBF, people exchanging FRs, sharing their sexcapades, be it pictorial form or written form, true life experiences or fantasies that one cannot just share with anyone else. 'I like sex, I am horny, but I am not weird and I am not alone.' These were the first thoughts I had when I savage through every single sub-forums, and I believe I am not the only one. We are no different from those tech-geek community or fashion-maniac social groups, we just share a different interest.
I apologize for this lengthy heartfelt message but I sincerely hope it can change some people's mindsets Nd make this forum a much better one.
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29-04-2012, 02:49 AM
