Needing POV from a man's perspective

meryllexoxo · #1 28-06-2015, 11:32 AM

Hi all, I'm new here and yes, I am a female

I chanced upon this forum because duh, its like the most popular forum in sg on sex topics etc.

Just a short background and needing advises from the guys.

My partner is 28 y.o and we hit off quite well but the only thing that keeps me wondering a lot is that our sex is almost like once a month and often he just rushes to thrust inside. Without giving me any foreplay or pleasure me before he goes in.

When I asked him about it, he told me that

1) he has very little experience to make a girl orgasm by fingering, even if he had did in the past with his ex-es, they were pretty quick to get high and orgasm. And he told me I was hard to please.

2) he is now facing low sex drive as he is always tired and do not have much feel.

I know he is not cheating for sure so that reason is out.

I also know that I am not hard to please because my ex who is patient and makes sure i get orgasm from fingering before the sex. it takes me about 10 mins or so to get the orgasm.

I am also not a bad sex partner because i know how to pleasure my man well. however, my current simply do not have the patience or mood to make me pleasure before the sex. and the sex is so little and not enjoyable, i am really craving for more from him.

I just want to know if any of the guys here also faces the same issue?

ch33zy · #2 28-06-2015, 01:44 PM

Try a bit of seduction on him.. Perhaps that will help.. Guys are more on visuals.. Use that to arouse him..

meryllexoxo · #3 28-06-2015, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by ch33zy

Try a bit of seduction on him.. Perhaps that will help.. Guys are more on visuals.. Use that to arouse him..

Hi ch33zy, thanks for the advise. perhaps I should be more initiative. just that i don't like that how i am not pre-warmed up before the sex starts though.

ah rat · #4 28-06-2015, 02:07 PM

Ts,time to look for new partner ,that satisfy yr need.In fact I like to finger but partner said uncomfortable

meryllexoxo · #5 28-06-2015, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by ah rat

Ts,time to look for new partner ,that satisfy yr need.In fact I like to finger but partner said uncomfortable

Wah, if you say like that is as though I am treating him as my FB only. i want to maintain the rs well and at the same time to find out from men's POV if this is common/normal for guys.

Cuz I did saw this thread and realise its always the women that didn't want any sexual interaction with their partner.

http://samleong.shop/showthr...=444813&page=8

So just want to know if any guys facing such issues

MattJB · #6 28-06-2015, 02:14 PM

Since u r not married yet, its time to move on.
There's no love nor romance in your relationship.

Otherwise, try a 3some, MFF.
u will know what his problem are.

Johnbass · #7 28-06-2015, 02:55 PM

U can do sexting to turn him on...
Need my help? I'm just a PM away...

BowieKnife · #8 28-06-2015, 03:05 PM

hi TS get your bf to watch porn. That will give him some ideas. Better yet watch with him and see his reaction.

Hurricane88 · #9 28-06-2015, 03:10 PM

Yes, I agree time to find new love and happiness...sex is very important in any relationship to last long...

many marriages failed because you accepted a partner that you knew is lousy...so why go thru all the problem...

alfa1983 · #10 28-06-2015, 03:13 PM

maybe you just try doing some kinky stuffs with him like what BowieKnife mentioned about watching porn together to get some ideas and build up the atmosphere. Personally, I think another option is to invest in some sexy lingerie, something you can find here; http://www.horny.sg/..

teeteedoh · #11 28-06-2015, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by meryllexoxo

Hi ch33zy, thanks for the advise. perhaps I should be more initiative. just that i don't like that how i am not pre-warmed up before the sex starts though.

Hey TS, perhaps you guys can try something new to spice up your sex life? Like wearing something really kinky (nurse outfit perhaps?) and do things that will whet his "appetite"? Heard such acts really go a long way!

meryllexoxo · #12 28-06-2015, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Yes, I agree time to find new love and happiness...sex is very important in any relationship to last long...

many marriages failed because you accepted a partner that you knew is lousy...so why go thru all the problem...

I do agree on the 2nd part regardless sex or what other flaws. especially when it comes to women, we are emotional and accepts thinking all would be fine. alas.. like what you said.

i was actually hoping/ expecting that this is normal for some guys. haha

meryllexoxo · #13 28-06-2015, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by MattJB

Since u r not married yet, its time to move on.
There's no love nor romance in your relationship.

Otherwise, try a 3some, MFF.
u will know what his problem are.

trying a 3some would seems to have let him enjoy but don't seems like a viable solution in the long run and its not really a committed relationship.. i think.

thanks for your advise

larue · #14 28-06-2015, 04:32 PM

He's tired of trying to pleasure you and likes to get it where he doesn't need to 'work' so hard.

You said he's not cheating, but one never truly knows. You can both accept the sex is lousy and focus on other aspects of your relationship and fulfill this need elsewhere. Sex is but one component of any relationship, albeit a major one.

Or if that's not acceptable to one or both of you, then maybe it's time to move on.

Laolucas · #15 28-06-2015, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by meryllexoxo

I do agree on the 2nd part regardless sex or what other flaws. especially when it comes to women, we are emotional and accepts thinking all would be fine. alas.. like what you said.

i was actually hoping/ expecting that this is normal for some guys. haha

Hi Meryllexoxo,

This being a forum of sexual nature, I don't think you will be able to find the category of guys that are low in sex drive. Such a group of guys will not be interested in knowing more about sex in the first place, so I doubt they would be here.

I do have a female friend whose hubby don't really need sex so it really depends on the guy.

If you feel that sex is something that you really need in a relationship, then maybe you may want to reconsider having your current partner as your future husband else you may feel dissatisfied with the marriage and find other guys for your needs. Should that happen, I believe many of the bros here would be queuing up to be shortlisted.