Greatest temptation period

[parkerpenn]

As bros here are mostly very experienced people, I would like to seek your inputs on something I am feeling right now.

My wife pregnant, so we have not been having sex for 5 months plus. The urge is building up so bad, temptation is very great.

If bros here can share experience is it when wife pregnant period that men lose their "senses" the most and cannot resist temptations? I have not done anything so far, but I don't know how long I can resist. But the will is starting to fail is all I can say.

Sorry if this disturbs bros here, but I just like to share something which is only will not be put down as shameful or immoral in SBF. Bros here I find are more mature when it comes to advising such things. Other "morally upright" forums, all will just scold, but never relate or give advise one.

Thanks bro.

[fastvx]

I think sex is allowed during pregnancy, even encouraged by the doctor.
Somebody correct me if I'm wrong though.

[parkerpenn]

Originally Posted by fastvx

I think sex is allowed during pregnancy, even encouraged by the doctor.
Somebody correct me if I'm wrong though.

Hi bro, just to confirm, yes it is allow. But my baby is in position not suitable or advisable for sex. So we have been celibrate for 5 months plus. So the urge and need now very strong. Not sure bros here been in same situation before? Any advise?

[siambee]

Originally Posted by fastvx

I think sex is allowed during pregnancy, even encouraged by the doctor.
Somebody correct me if I'm wrong though.

u are rite, in most case, doc will advice sex with preg. wife will be good for both wife/baby, becos of blood circulation issue. best take doc advice.

[The Bund]

Originally Posted by parkerpenn

As bros here are mostly very experienced people, I would like to seek your inputs on something I am feeling right now.

My wife pregnant, so we have not been having sex for 5 months plus. The urge is building up so bad, temptation is very great.

I'd like to share my personal experience but please don't misunderstand - I'm not suggesting that mine was the correct way.

When my wife was pregnant, I kept reminding myself that it was the WORST time to be unfaithful to her. I'm not suggesting there's a "good" time to be unfaithful but it wasn't like she had no reason to refuse me sex on a protracted basis. I saw she was going through an extremely uncomfortable period, with mood swings and all - all because of the little package of love we both longed for and looked forward to cuddling in 10 months' time.

How then could I have been unfaithful to her?

We had to go through it together. I kept myself very busy and made myself very tired. We'd a maid but I did certain things for her myself. Hey, have you been regularly applying baby oil on her body? My wife bathed several times a day, and each time after the bath, I'd apply baby oil on her whole body. This helps to keep the skin supple and reduce stretch lines. It also helped create a wonderful bond for both of us as I could witness on a daily basis the changes to her body. Perhaps you ought to try it.

[The Bund]

My wife gained 40 kgs during her pregnancy! Her thighs were like huge trunks and her arms were like thighs. But she was still beautiful to me.

I did however something which if she had found out would've hurt her deeply. I'm not going into moralistic arguments over this, so please don't start one. I engaged in phone sex periodically. It all started one evening when I finally succumbed to the countless 1900 ads on cable TV. I went to my car and made the calls.

It was my way of relieving an urge - heck, it cost me a tidy sum!

Bro, the fact that you're asking shows that you're resisting - I hope you're not trying to seek endorsements to go out and find sex. However, at the end of the day, you're old enough to decide for yourself - you're going to be a father in 5 months' time, you should be old enough to think for yourself.

Whatever you decide to do, you've to live with your decision. To me, if you focus on love, there's no evil you can't overcome.

By the way, I'm not a Christian. And I certainly ain't no angel!!!

[BeatAeroplane]

Hi Bro Parkerpenn,
Congratulations to ypu . This must be a greatest joy to you; being a first time father in the near future. There is no greater joy than seeing your first born the first time outside the delivery room.
From your writeup, I cannot conclude whether it is the doctor who advised you to stop having sex or whether it is yours or your wife's personal choice. If the pregnancy is progressing normally, the gynae will tell you that it is okay to carry on with having sex regularly.
If I recall correctly, my wife was horny throughout both pregnancies, and we had sex almost daily until the water bag burst on both pregnancies. I was concerned unnecessarily during those months and always told my wife jokingly that it felt like someone tugging at my cockhead with each thrust. But she insisted, so bo pian had to do my daily obligation.
All I can say bro, if all is going well, just carry on and have fun. In the worse case scenario, if the wife loses interest in having sex for fear of injuring the foetus, feel free to discuss the situation with her. I am sure she will understand your needs, and worse come to worse help you to pa chiu cheng lor, for the near future. Have fun

[peerer]

Originally Posted by parkerpenn

Hi bro, just to confirm, yes it is allow. But my baby is in position not suitable or advisable for sex.....Any advise?

First: Congratulation to you.

Second: Wonder who tell you abt your "baby is in position not suitable or advisable for sex"? The doctor or your own assumption? Maybe you need to check with your doctor.

Third: I never stop our sex life during my wife's pregnancy period. At times when she don't feel like having sex and I'm horny, she'll do HJ for me.

All in all, don't feel shy to ask the correct person (be it the doctor, your wife, parents, etc). Especially your wife, this is the period where she experienced great changes to her body and mind (meaning physically and mentally). Communication is the best way to make both of you understand each other better (including your need for sex).

Do your talking and I'm sure you'll find your direction to solve your problem.

Cheers!

[bart]

Congrats.

If you have not tried commercial sex, then no need to go there. Many of us wish we can stop.

Can try oral, like 69 or anal for alternative to virginal sex. When preg, wife's boobs can grow very big. Try tit fucking, with lots of astroglide. Fun! Always clear any activity with your Gynae.

Buy a nice sex toy, like rubber pussy and ask wife to play with you.

[tungsten]

Tired yourself through work is a good thing... Try excercise... If not then continual masturbation should relieve whatever tension left.

[legoman]

congratulations!

when my wife was pregnant the first time - we found joy in mutual masturbation and oral sex. macaam like back to school days

call me paranoid but the fear of "da pao" something if engage in commercial/cassual sex and passing it on to wife & eventually kid was enough to scare me off being unfaithful...

[zhivago]

bro, think on the rite path...

u're wife is sacrificing for you and you shud do something in return for her.

occupy urself with other things which will make u think less on sex...

cheers.

[Sarissa]

Originally Posted by parkerpenn

If bros here can share experience is it when wife pregnant period that men lose their "senses" the most and cannot resist temptations? I have not done anything so far, but I don't know how long I can resist. But the will is starting to fail is all I can say.

Sorry if this disturbs bros here, but I just like to share something which is only will not be put down as shameful or immoral in SBF. Bros here I find are more mature when it comes to advising such things. Other "morally upright" forums, all will just scold, but never relate or give advise one.

I have 2 kids so I know what you are going through. Don't worry what you are feeling right now is perfectly normal. Some brothers say it is ok to have sex during pregnancy but personally I think it all depends as women undergo drastic hormonal changes during this period so don't be surprise by their sudden mood changes. Some women may experience higher sexual urges whereas others get turned off. All I can say is restrain is the highest ideal and you will be proud of yourself that you have remained faithful during this trying period but on the other hand if your will "fails" you, you are just human. Don't judge yourself too harshly.

[asdfghjkl]

Originally Posted by bart

Can try oral, like 69 or anal for alternative to virginal sex.

bro.. if my wife dun like any sexy moments at all during the 10 months.. siao liao la!

[YellowHummerH2]

Bro,

First and foremost, congrats on your new addition to the family...

Second, there is no hard and fast rule about what you want to do or what you can do or what you should do. There are many of us who go to WLs for relief, there are also those who use work to tire themselve out. Also there are those who just simple like what bro bart said, HJ,TF, Anal....
Also there are those who use religion to help...

Thus there are no hard and fast rule on what you should do, neither can any of us tell you what you should do....

Do what you think is right. The main thing is, do something which will not render you having guilty conscience.....

Just my 2 cents.....